Anal Sex FAQ & Safety Tips
© 2003 Mark Simon

Q: What is anal sex?

A: Anal Sex is an any form of sexual stimulation, activity or sex play that involves the stimulation or penetration of the anus. This can include touching, kissing, licking (called analingus), penetration with the fingers, a sex toy or the male penis (which is referred to as anal intercourse.)

Q: Does anal sex hurt? I have heard that it does from a friend that tried it?

A: If done properly anal sex should be very pleasurable for both partners, with only minimal discomfort the receptive partner at first quickly turning to pleasure as soon as the muscles of the anus and rectum relax. Many people that try anal sex with their partners do not know or use the proper technique which can result in causing some discomfort or pain to their partners. This should not be the case if you have a knowledgeable, considerate and experienced partner. Some times it takes a few time to learn to adjust to the new sensations just as it does when a women has vaginal intercourse the very first time.

 Q: Why do many women like anal sex?

A: Many women say that the have there most intense and pleasurable orgasms during anal sex or anal sex accompanied by clitoral stimulation as well. Also many women climax much faster through anal intercourse than they do during vaginal intercourse.

Q: Do straight people have anal sex? I though it was only something gay men did?

A: Many straight couples engage in anal sex on a occasional or even frequent basis. Many women love anal sex as well as many men. Many straight men even enjoy anal stimulation from the female partners in the form of anal touching, licking or finger penetration. There are even straight couples that use dildos on each other.

In contrast many gay men DONT practice anal sex. Enjoying giving or receiving anal stimulation does not make you either straight or gay. Being gay has nothing at all with your preference for anal stimulation, but with your preference for the gender of the person whom you are having sex with. If you want to be with a person of the opposite sex you are straight, if you desire a person of the same sex you are gay, if you really don't care which one or you desire both you are bisexual. There are people of all three above categories that like anal sex and other that dislike anal sex. It has nothing to do with sexual orientation.

Q: Is anal sex safe?

A: If done properly following the guidelines below and also following Safe Sex guidelines is should be both pleasurable and safe?

Anal Sex Precautions & Safety Guidelines

I want once again cover the safety rules you absolutely must follow for you and your partner to have safe and healthy anal sex.

• Never insert anything that has been in your partners rectum in to your partners vagina or mouth (or your mouth). This means your fingers, penis, a toy or anything. Contrary to what you see in porn films these days, penetrative ass to mouth sex is not a healthy thing to do.
  
  The part you are missing in the film is that the actresses in the films use repeated enemas and often abstain from eating before the shoot which reduces the level of bacteria present in the rectum and may even pre medicate with antibiotics to prevent an infection where as real women in real life situation do not.
  
  Going from rectum to vagina can result in a life threatening infection in which the women may have to be hospitalized and given intravenous medication. Female porn actresses are always getting urinary tract infections. You don't see what goes on behind the scenes. Remember porn is entertainment, not reality! And many times what you see is equivalent to porn stunts, just as you would not jump from a burning building like they do in a Hollywood film, you should not expect your partner to do the stunts done in a porn film!
   
• It is best to use condoms when having anal intercourse. This will not only protect your partner and you from STD's but also protect you from any bacteria that may be present that could cause a prostate infection.
   
• If you don't want use condoms, make sure that you know the STD status of your partner and that their rectum is empty (most people can tell when they are empty) or that they have a light enema an hour before. Then end with ejaculating out side of your partner and then urinate as soon as possible to flush any bacteria out of the penis that may have gotten in during the unprotected anal intercourse.
   
• Always use a plenty of water based or silicone lube (with condoms), oil based maybe used if you are not using condoms.
   
• If your partner says stop or that she is in pain STOP IMMEDIATELY!
   
• Make sure your partner does not have to go to the bathroom and has a empty rectum. Most people can tell if their rectum is empty. So she will let you know if this is the case most if the time. Many times when a woman says "Not right now" that is the case.
   
• OPTIONAL: It is also a good idea if you are your partner plan to enjoy anal sex on a frequent basis for your partner to have light enema an hour or so before anal play or sex followed by a hot shower. She can use the store bought disposable bottles, but she replace the liquid in side with warm distilled drinking water. She should also make sure that any residual water from the enema has passed so that it does not come out during sex or anal play which could be a very unpleasant experience. That is why if she is going to do this she should do it an hour to two hours before anal sex or play.
   
• Never have anal sex is your partners anus or rectum is injured, sore or irritated.
   
• If your partner has, chronic colon problems, or constipation, diarrhea, anal fissures, any bleeding in the rectum or hemorrhoids, she should see a doctor and you should not have anal sex until these problems are resolved.
   
• If after anal sex your partner has any pain ( I mean real pain not a slight natural soreness from anal sex), bleeding or any other signs of injury she should see a doctor immediately. If you have anal sex in a safe and caring fashion she should never have any pain or injuries.

Anal Sex Tips (For Receptive Partner: Women)

As the receptive partner during anal sex often the first few times they try it is can be uncomfortable or even painful if you are not relaxed and lubricated adequately.

Many of the women in my survey said that they enjoy anal sex, but when I asked what it was that the did not like most was the first few thrusts as they were the most uncomfortable. This discomfort can be avoided by learning how to relax your muscles and by warming up on a smaller object before your partner inserts his penis into you.

One of best way that you can learn to enjoy anal sex, have intense anal orgasms is to learn to relax your muscles and learn what feels good to you by practicing on yourself with anal toy or dildo. This way you will learn what feels good and what does not, how fast or slow you like it, what it feels like with different size dildos, how much lube you prefer etc... That way you can related this information to your partner and prevent any painful experiences.

I would suggest that you do this alone at first and then later with your partner as a warm up to anal intercourse. You might even want to watch an anal porn movie to get yourself in the mood by watching how much the other women enjoy it.

You can also let your lover use the toys on you and instruct them how you like it, so that when you do have intercourse they will know how you like it already.

As far as anal toys go a great choice is a anal beginners toy kit, click here to see a selection for you to choose from. 

A few precautions I suggest you take are:

For more information reed the anal sex guide at Red Hot Sex Tips.com

About the author: Mark Simon is the author of the hot selling "Penis of Steel Manual" a guide for men on penis enlargement, ejaculatory control, sexual technique and supercharged sex. And "The Female Ejaculation Manual" A guide to G-Spot stimulation and female ejaculation for women and the men who love them!" You can reach Mark at mark@greatlovers.com

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